The Painter, the Sculptor and the Writer
Paula Modersohn-Becker and Clara Rilke-Westhoff had a strong friendship. A painter and a sculptor. In their early twenties they both left Germany to conquer the art world of Paris. They remained devoted friends through their lives and shared a creative bond in their passion of art. They had a mutual love for Cezanne’s work. They were modern women and modern artists. And married creative men. Paula to painter Otto Modersohn and Clara to writer Rainer Rilke.
Letter to her mother, 26 November 1905, Paula:
Mornings I’m painting Clara Rilke in a white dress, her head and part of her hand and a red rose. She looks very beautiful and I hope I can capture something of her… I’m happy to be getting together with Clara frequently like this. In spite of everything she is still dearest to me. For two or three weeks she lived very close to Rodin [her mentor], and is still very much under the influence of his personality and his great, simple maxims…
Clara Rilke-Westhoff reminiscences:
Paula painted me while my little daughter sat on the floor and played… One winter afternoon we were both sitting by the stove in her little atelier. Paula threw one piece of peat on the other through a little squeaking door in the kiln, as one tear after another rolled down her cheek while she explained to me how very important it was for her to be out ‘in the world’ again, to go back to Paris again.
‘When I think of it, the world’ - she said.
So, Clara was married to the great poet and writer Rainer Maria Rilke. He was also a great friend of Paula, whom he had always loved… unrequitedly. A year after Paula’s death he wrote the beautiful, eloquent and very moving Requiem for a Friend over two haunted nights.
Extract ‘Requiem for a Friend’:
…For this is wrong, if anything is wrong: not to enlarge the freedom of a love with all the inner freedom one can summon. We need, in love, to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily; we do not need to learn it.
Images: Painting of Clara by Paula / Painting of Rainer Maria Rilke by Paula / Paula and Clara